Hello, my loves! I hope that you had a wonderful weekend and that your Monday was pleasant. How did the rest of last week go? Did you apply any new meditation techniques outside of the gratitude and OM techniques? What new insight do you have after a week of meditation?
We will continue to dig deep within through week 2 of the self-knowledge assignment.
This week’s assignment begs the question, what is your “why”?
Take a moment to reflect on the lies you have told yourself. Why?
*Assignment: Use the blog, or if you wish not to share with the group make a personal list of who or what have you blamed in order to avoid facing yourself and addressing the real reason why you do what you do?
This may be difficult, but now is more the time than ever to stop pointing the finger outward and face yourself.
Please take this week to visualize your truest and most perfect self. Of course, no one is perfect, but visualize yourself free of the lies your have told yourself, free of guilt, or worry, or pain.
*Assignment: Then create one thought or affirmation that destroys your lie and sets the tone for how you will live your life moving forward
Meditate and think about what your life would look like if you took accountability for where you are in life today and regained control of the things you have relinquished to outside sources.
I will start:
My lie simply put is that I have allowed self-sabotage to prevent me from being my truest and most perfect self. I cannot tell you the number of times I have intentionally put something off until it's too late to follow through, never followed up on something, or purposely gave up on a diet or a goal to eat healthier.
WHY? Because deep down I believe I don't deserve it. Deep down I feel the I am not good enough. I have convinced myself that my goal is too hard or unattainable.
My positive affirmation: I am good enough. I am and will always be enough. I approve of myself. I am free to be me. I love myself and who I've become.
If you are anything like me, several thoughts or "why's" will come up throughout the week. I encourage you all to hop on the blog and encourage one another. I love you.
Hi ladies,
ReplyDeleteI didn't want to speak in general here so I am going to name some specific examples... I had attended classes to become a voice over actress throughout the year of 2014 and last year. At the end I the course I was to record a professional voice over demo. It was supposed to be recorded in early May of last year. Well, it was around this time that dad fell a little ill. I thought to myself, what better way to get out of recording this voice over demo than to leave town...after all, he was on his "death bed" right? At least that is how I justified it. The day before I was supposed to record my demo, I called to reschedule for August. At the time I didnt feel bad about saying I had a family emergency and that my father was terribly ill. Now, fast forward to August. I was scheduled to record two days before my birthday. I did not pick up one single script to practice until the night before the recording session. I stayed up the entire night reading the scripts. The end result? I was exhausted, and I felt like you could hear it in my voice. Fast forward to now...I have my professional demo and three potential leads for work. Two are production houses that hire voice over artists on a regular basis. I have phone numbers and direct contacts that I stare at everyday and don't make a move. In fact, thinking about calling or emailing gives me anxiety. Writing this out and sharing this makes me embarrassed because I'm seeing just how crippling and destructive I have been and am being to myself. I'm exhausted, I have not been living up to my full potential, and I'm taking the easy way out by not even trying. And I have no one to blame but myself. I have chosen to see myself as a victim. To see myself as doing my best considering the circumstances....circumstances I mostly created for myself by procrastinating or not doing anything at all. This is just one of the many lies I have told myself through the years. Once you get in the business of lying to yourself you start to lose focus of who you are. Furthermore, you lose focus of your purpose.
Today I pledge to be my biggest supporter. I pledge to no longer lie to myself or make excuses for my behavior. I choose to accept tell gifts tat God has given me and put them to use. I pledge to face my fears and step out of my comfort zone. I choose to be my most truest self.
Jen Jo. Thank you so much for sharing that with us. I pray that it will reach out and speak to the others as it has me. It is so easy to find an easy way out. Especially if excuses seems to be the only thing holding its door open.
ReplyDeleteMy lie: As you all know almost 6 years ago I was a victim of a hate crime and was shot by a. Individual who evidently claimed to be a supporter of Hitler. Till this day I am scared of being in situations/environments where I am unable to control absolutely everything and/or ensure the safety of my family. I have anxiety problems, and I am constantly worrying about the uncontrollables. Well the reality is, I was doing this long before I was shot. In fact worrying is something that I have grown accustomed to. I have been doing it so long, it's honestly all I know. Even in my most happiest moments a flash of a depression vision will cross my mind. I have trained/convinced myself that if I think of the worst possible scenario, I will be prepared when it happens. It this isn't just in reference to me being shot, or the safety of my family, but also in everyday life. Another example being me testing for rank. I do the best that I can do, claim that I am "leaving it in God's hands," and then worry about NOT making it the entire time. And then when I don't make it, I blame it on the stress and lack of support that I didn't have when I was trying to study, which a lot of times where lies as well. The stress was brought on by myself, and well as far as the support, if you want something you find ways to make it happen. I have done so with everything else. To be honest, I don't feel smart or intelligent. I have depended on that rank to define what kind of person I am. Being in my line of work it is hard not to. Considering that you are always being compared amongst your peers.
My Positive Affirmation: I am a child of God. Because of that, I am strong, and I use my stress as my fuel. Take away the rank, awards and decorations and you will find a person of compassion, heart, and a mentor. There is no position that defines me. Yet, I define my own position.
And too Jade, God has not given us a spirit if fear. I look forward to hearing about how you took back your spirit love and a sound mind.
DeleteJade,
DeleteThis is such an excellent affirmation! You hit the nail on the head. Our accomplishments do not define us. We define who we are and our position in life. Thank you!
Just so everyone knows, that is me that was signed as "Chris H" I accidentally didn't change it. And I also wanted to add that I found last weeks assignment very helpful, and still use it till this day, and plan to continue to use it. I t has help me with positive thinking.
ReplyDeleteMan, this is a hard one. The biggest lie I've ever told myself was that I could NOT be successful. Despite getting must jobs I've ever applied for and setting standards that people may not ever be able to reach at national Jewish, I have convinced myself that I could never make it to the top or that I would never see a six figure salary in this life time. I have blamed "the white man" for this scenario and still do. The real reason I may not get six figures is because I dislike school and most high level positions that pays six figures requires higher education.
ReplyDeleteToo combat the lie, I decided to use a truth. The truth is, I very well may have to get a BA/BS or higher in order to gain my definition of what I want success to look like for me.
My affirmation is simple. I will be successful. I will make six figures before I'm 40 years old. I will be successful. I will make six figures bride I'm 40 years old. I will be successful, I will make six figures before I'm 40 years old. Please note, that is not a typo. That simply felt good. I'm half way to my six figure mark and I'm only 34. I will be successful. I will make six figures before I'm 40.
The oppressor!
DeleteMan, this is a hard one. The biggest lie I've ever told myself was that I could NOT be successful. Despite getting must jobs I've ever applied for and setting standards that people may not ever be able to reach at national Jewish, I have convinced myself that I could never make it to the top or that I would never see a six figure salary in this life time. I have blamed "the white man" for this scenario and still do. The real reason I may not get six figures is because I dislike school and most high level positions that pays six figures requires higher education.
ReplyDeleteToo combat the lie, I decided to use a truth. The truth is, I very well may have to get a BA/BS or higher in order to gain my definition of what I want success to look like for me.
My affirmation is simple. I will be successful. I will make six figures before I'm 40 years old. I will be successful. I will make six figures bride I'm 40 years old. I will be successful, I will make six figures before I'm 40 years old. Please note, that is not a typo. That simply felt good. I'm half way to my six figure mark and I'm only 34. I will be successful. I will make six figures before I'm 40.
Shana, you WILL be successful! You are all you need to get there.
DeleteShana, with or without the "higher level of education" you are successful. Always know that.
DeleteI would like to share this with the group. For years I have been on diets after diets, thinking this one is the one. Needless to say, I'm still doing the same thing which means I'm getting the same results. I can only blame myself for these set backs. I say to myself, what difference does it make, I'm not going to lose weight anyway. I have access to work out as much as I want in the comfort of my home, but I still make dumb excuses like, I'm just to tired or, I'll do it tomorrow. The only way for me to lose weight is to get on my plan and stick to it. I beat myself up when I look in the mirror and don't like what I see. But who's fault is that, mine!!! I love me and I know I'm a beautiful person, even being over weight. But although I know losing weight isn't going to change the person I am, it will help me feel better mentally and definitely physically. So I'm going to lose weight because it's what I want to do, and I will feel good about myself no matter what bumps I may encounter along the way.
ReplyDeleteI would like to share this with the group. For years I have been on diets after diets, thinking this one is the one. Needless to say, I'm still doing the same thing which means I'm getting the same results. I can only blame myself for these set backs. I say to myself, what difference does it make, I'm not going to lose weight anyway. I have access to work out as much as I want in the comfort of my home, but I still make dumb excuses like, I'm just to tired or, I'll do it tomorrow. The only way for me to lose weight is to get on my plan and stick to it. I beat myself up when I look in the mirror and don't like what I see. But who's fault is that, mine!!! I love me and I know I'm a beautiful person, even being over weight. But although I know losing weight isn't going to change the person I am, it will help me feel better mentally and definitely physically. So I'm going to lose weight because it's what I want to do, and I will feel good about myself no matter what bumps I may encounter along the way.
ReplyDeleteMom, you are the most beautiful woman to me. You can and will do anything that you set out to do because you are one of the strongest people I know. It's all about getting out of our perceived beliefs about ourselves and standing in our truth. Be prepared to amaze yourself!
DeleteMom, a lot of times we have to step outside ourselves and really evaluate what is the root cause of what we view as our problems. The weight is not necessarily the problem, it's the result of other problems. You have to take a moment to ask yourself why. If you are tired, why are you tired? If you are hurt/in pain, why? If all possible eliminate (pull) out the roots that are causing these problems. But always know that you are strong and beautiful, and where you may personally feel you lack discipline in, realize that you make up for it in other areas. After all, you are a full time wife, mom and grandma, who has and will do anything to make sure each and everyone of us are take care of. Also, plans are nice, but can also be discouraging if things to go according to them. Sometimes it's best not to plan on doing it, it's better just to do it!
ReplyDeleteHello everyone! I am late as usual...
ReplyDeleteMy lie, most times when there is something that needs to be done, I procrastinate. I tell myself I don't have time, or I'll do it tomorrow, or I'll start next week. I say I have too much going on or that I'm busy. Even this very moment with this blog that I kept telling myself, I'll post tomorrow....the truth is I'm just LAZY! I'm lazy and have no motivation. Another lie that I seem to tell myself is, I take so much stuff from this person because I love them so much. They're just going throw some things...the truth is, I'm just so afraid of being alone that I hang on to people that I should let go of.
My Positive Affirmation: I will stop being lazy, and make time for the things that truly matter. I will make time for MYSELF!I will become motivated by getting rid of any negative thoughts and depression. I will love myself enough to know what I deserve and settle for nothing less from anyone.